Mexico City: Romance & PDAs

Well this post is going to be considerably lighter and maybe a little spicier than my last post about the Mexico City Markets and MeatHowever, that one had plenty of sizzle in its own regard.  Thank you for your comments, thoughts, and feelings about what can be such a hot topic and thank you for keeping things very respectful on what can be such a passionate topic.

And thank you for the compliments on my photography.

It’s been such a whirlwind weekend here in Mexico City and I leave here bright and early, San Diego homebound.  It’s been an amazing trip in so many ways, and it was the perfect length.  We packed so much into Friday evening, Saturday, and Sunday, and now I am ready to go home, kiss Skylar and Scott, and get ready to move into our new place on Wednesday!  What a whirlwind life for me right now!

Time for a little sizzle first:

Lime and chili spiced peanuts


Hot, Spicy, Delicious.

And was our waiter delicious, or what?!

I took one picture of him.  And look at the shot I got!  I’ve been married 10 years but I know a hottie when I see one!  Those eyes.  Wow.  I love you too, Scott!

Remember I mentioned that Penny said the theme for the weekend was finding and photographing the romance we would no doubt see in public areas in Mexico City?

Check all these couples out that I captured over the weekend:

I think all of the images are tender, beautiful, loving, and just show love in full force.

Many of you asked me if I ask for permission to photograph these couples?  The answer is yes. 

If I see a couple that seems like that just isn’t going to mind if I make their photograph, or if I get a receptive vibe from them, I ask them if it’s okay to take their picture.  If they say yes, great.  The shooting begins.  Usually it’s 3 to 10 frames, I’m done in 20-30 seconds, tops.

If they say no, I move on.  Ethically, I would not take and certainly would not post or publish the photos of a couple who was not receptive to it.

Some couples shield their faces or wave you off with their hands.  Clearly not receptive so I don’t even bother asking.  I respect people’s space and boundaries and most ethical photographers do as well and I don’t make photographs of them.

Now, it’s a bit different if I am photographing a man selling tomatoes.  I don’t usually ask for permission and they don’t usually care.  But again, it’s situationally dependent and if I think I am going to ruffle their feathers, I just move on.


1. What do you think about PDA’s (public displays of affection)?

I think that some PDAs are okay.  Hugs and kisses, but if it borders on the get a room stage, then, I think they should probably get a room.  Not that I really care, though.

I am too busy rushing around, doing my thing, and minding my own business to care.  Or really stop and stare anyway.  Whatever floats their boat is their thing.   Live and let live!

2. Are you into PDAs for yourself? Care about it with or for others? 

Scott and I are not PDA people.  Hand holding, a hug, maybe a peck but that’s it.  I really don’t like extra attention from random people and one way to become the center of attention is with PDAs and so I just don’t engage.

Plus, I believe there are some things, for me personally, that are just private moments and even if others don’t care, I do, so I’d rather keep some things private.

And again, don’t care what others do, but for me, nah, PDAs really aren’t my deal.  I gave that up by the time I was about 17…haha!

If you’re just catching up on posts from the weekend, here’s my whirlwind from Friday, my travel, and Mexico City:

Have a great week and I’ll be back.  From the airport tomorrow, I’m sure.

57 comments on “Mexico City: Romance & PDAs”

  1. Averie,
    Pics are looking amazing. Absolutely beautiful. :)

  2. Gorgeous pictures my friend. Safe travels tomorrow. Jason and I aren’t really PDA people either. Sometimes i get a little annoyed by full on making out in public. but at the same time…maybe a bit jealous.

  3. it’s just so awesome that you had such an amazing whirlwind weekend, averie. and the photos of the couples are real keepers. thanks for sharing about asking for permission etc. you are really going to have a vast portfolio of this weekend.
    i don’t care about PDAs. if i don’t like what i see, i stop looking! in my ‘hood, there’s not often a lot of x-rated stuff going on, anyway. myself: like you say, i was more into it in my teens! i think i liked to show off that i had a boyfriend…but i was never that wild, at any time!
    safe travels!

  4. “I know a hottie when I see one” – bahaha, love this! ME TOO. And what a cutie patootie he is!

    I am honestly LOVING the couple pictures, including (and even especially) the ones where they’re kissing. I’m not usually a huge PDA fan, but for some reason I adore these photos. Rather than screaming “sex”, LOVE just emanates from them. So beautiful! :-)

  5. Love the raw emotion in these pictures, these couples look so in love. Mexico City is a truly amazing place that most people are afraid of!

  6. I’m with you–i’m all for public AFFECTION, but not for public get-a-freaking-bedroom. Um, GET A ROOM!! ;)

    gorgeous, loving photos!!

  7. All your photos are wonderful! I love the older couple, #7! They’re adorable.
    I agree with you on keeping PDA to a minimum, it’s just something I’d rather not publicly engage in!

  8. I was cracking up at your waiter comment. Great shot, too!! He looks like he knows he’s got looks ;)

    Great shots, as always :)

    And PDA…same as you. I don’t mind a little…but if they’re making me think “oh, get a room,” then I think they should probably cease & desist, or just get a room already.

  9. omg those pictures are great! On a recent trip to Dominican Republic, there were many Mexicans and Central Americans there with us, and I found that the level of PDA they had was much higher than the typical American couple. It made me feel not as self aware while being PDA with Shane! haha

  10. I love these photos!!! I have no problem with PDA liek what you have posted here, but it can be really uncomforatable if there are only a few other people around or its at a party, or something like that. I’ve been in those situations, and they SUCK.

    I’m not much of a PDA girl myself. Never have been.

  11. I’m all for showing my love in pblic. I’m such a giddy person with Josh actually that I just feel the urge to kiss him bunches nd can’t stop sometimes. We call them our lovey moments haha (yay for having those after 3 years still!).
    When it comes to people sitting on boy-friends laps okay cute. When it comes to girls straddling their boy-friends facing them and all out making out? Not cute. I believe looking like you’re about to do the deed in public crosses the line for me lol.

  12. Looks like a beautiful weekend! The photos are great! I don’t mind others showing PDA to some extent. I have kids with me most of the time, so there is a limit to how much I would like them to see. All of these seem to show love and I think it’s good for my kids to see that. We don’t show much as far as PDA goes, but Tony and I are very private people.

  13. Hi! I’m not sure how I found your blog but I am hooked as I am a Mexico lover and want to go back and read all your posts on your travels! I just recently went to Guanajuato where I lived when I was 18 (I’m now 32) I brought my 19 month old and my husband. It was amazing. When I lived there we took our Spring Breaks to Mexico City and I had the best time…anyway, I doubt you care about all of that! It just brought back a lot of memories seeing that you are there :) Looking forward to reading your posts. Travel Safe!!! May I as why you are there? (I’ll probably find out once I go back and read your blog!)

  14. Those photos are all so beautiful Ave!! You really did capture some tender and sweet moments. I really like the older couple! I think along the same lines as you do when it come to pda, some is alright, but a full on mack sesh is not high on my list of things I love to watch, if you know what I mean. I will kiss my man in public, and that is mostly because I am proud to be with him. I love holding hands, and having his arm around me. But that is just me!

  15. great post and beautiful photos, Averie!

    pda… I am definitely not into full on make out. I am a touchy person, though, and hug most people. :) I am always hugging Jason or holding his hand, I don’t THINK we ever offend. ;)

    safe travels home, and sending LOTS of energy your way for the next week! :D

  16. Jason and I are a PDA couple — his grandparents call us (lovingly!) the velcro couple and they have since we started dating. Now it is just a running joke. But we’re very aware of when it is a good time and when it isn’t a good time. Make out at the Twins game? Not a good idea. Stop and kiss a few times at the mall? Who cares. And I’m a total hand holder too.

  17. I was wondering about how you were handling & respecting the people (lovers) you guys are photographing. I did not know the protocol on that. Very helpful info, thanks. LOVE these shots. I see your improvement with every post. Really. Have FUN!!

  18. Safe travels!

    Awesome pics, especially that amazing character shot of your cute waiter.

    Thanks for covering the ‘asking permission’ thing: I hadn’t asked before, but I was wondering, and what you say really makes sense.

    I’m not into big PDAs but hand-holding and hugging/pecking are fine by me.

  19. PDAs for adult may look romantic, but not much for teens. lol I must say, latinos and latinas have a certain appeal that most of us can’t resist. ;)

  20. A total whirlwind for you, no dull moments this week! The peanuts look great. Hehe on the waiter, not shabby at all. :-) Great romance shots, lots of passion.

    1. Not much, as long as it’s not a porno, I really don’t care.
    2. Sure, hubby and I still partake occasionally, gotta keep things spicy. :-)

  21. i feel the same about pda as you…i mean, do whatever you want, but no need for some crazy kissy face kinda thing…but hey, it’s their lives. who am i to them to judge?

    and i do like holding hands, a little peck here and there…but that’s it. my boyfriend isn’t so much of a pda…but i love holding hands. :)

    beautiful pics!!!

  22. I am so impressed with these people! This whole post, full of love – you got some great pics! – and they seem so genuine and happily in love! Even after being askedif you could take their picture! Could you get those pics in North America you think? You certainly couldn’t where I live, people would be really self-conscious. Then again, this is the cold North :-). You really got me thinking what kind of society I live in…my boyfriend was recently recommended that we go to some eastern European capital for hols. Great place, he was told – by a local who was visiting where we live. Then the guy told him that the reason he loves our city is that everybody is so smiling and open, where he lives, everybody walks around looking closed and glum. Wait. Wait, wait, wait – the city where you want us to go on hols is MORE glum than the cold, closed, mind-your-own-business, keep-your-head-down capital where I already live? WHUT? Hahaha…

    OK – again: I LOVE the pics. That trip must have been worth it, no? Hope you aren’t hit by the whirlwind when you get back ;-)

  23. Averie! I love these photos!!! I’m feeling miserable this morning but these lifted my spirits so much :) Thank you xxx

  24. You are capturing the heart of Mexico in these photos :-) Your photos of people are brilliant.

    I am okay with PDAs if they are not over the top (nothing beyond a little kissing).

  25. Based on these photos I would say this trip was a huge success!

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