I alluded in a recent post to things that you wouldn’t believe and that you just couldn’t even make up, and that life has thrown me some curveballs recently.

Well, here’s the situation…

We moved into our current place in early June 2010.  Here was my first post from San Diego on June 1o, 2010.  I was so excited to be back in San Diego after 9 horrible months in Phoenix.

Our current lease was up June 1, 2011.

We got a phone all and then a letter from our landlord last week saying that he has to sell our townhouse and that we have 30 days to be out.

I am sure the legalities of this are questionable and I am sure that we technically have “rights” but in reality I don’t have time, money, or energy to tangle and fight and get involved in any legal situations when in reality what’s probably happening is that our landlord is probably not making his mortgage payments.

And in reality I wouldn’t be surprised if any day there’s a notice of trustee’s sale given and taped on our front door and 72 hours later our house in reality  is auctioned off at city hall.

I’d rather not be living here waiting around for that and debating the fine points of the law and what our “rights are”.  I’d rather just be gone.

So moving it is.

The major issues with moving have been:

The lack of suitable 3 bedroom properties in the area of San Diego I want to live in.  As in, almost none.  I stalked Craigslist like it was my job for a four day period and just missed three different properties.   I was in tears most of last week.

Thank God, at 4pm Friday going into the 4th of July long holiday weekend, I found a place.  It wasn’t even supposed to be “mine”; but someone else failed to come back and give their security deposit so it became mine.  Thank.God. 

However, coming up with the 1st months rent on the new place + 1 months rent as security deposit + paying rent on the current place + the security deposit on the current place that is still tied up = very large sums of money needed.   That wasn’t planned for.  At.All. 

Thank God I have a savings plan and am debt free.  <–That was one of the best new year’s intentions/resolutions/goals, ever.  It just saved us, big time.   I mean who can come up with all that cash out of no where if you don’t have some savings?!  Seriously stressful!

So, from the time I found out we had to move to finding a place it was 6 days.

And we are moving into a new place one week from today, Wednesday. 

The entire 4th of July weekend where I alluded to how hard I was working I was actually donating, decluttering, trashing, and packing.

My “Holiday” Weekend.  Some holiday, eh?

Scott took Skylar to lots of parks and the zoo and got lost with her, and I stayed home and for 3 days, lived, breathed, and packed.

This was our garage: Empty boxes that I had accumulated the past year (they came in handy!) and random crap that needed to be donated.

Everything from computer boxes to stroller boxes was all just waiting for me to deal with.

And here was one car load of donations.

We made five stuffed carloads full of donations to the thrift store.

No time for the luxury of selling things on Craiglist or time for a yard sale, and not enough storage space in the new place to bring it all with (nor do I want to,) so I donated so much.

5 huge car loads of stuff.  Ba-bye.

But I single-handedly have done 98% of all the packing for all our other moves, too, so I am a pro.  I wish I wasn’t a moving pro.  I’d rather be a pro at anything else but moving!

I’d rather just do it and know it’s been done right.  And that way on the other side, I can unpack easily because I know how it was all packed and what was put where.

I hate the way that moving makes me feel so out of sorts, so disorganized, clutter everywhere, nothing is in it’s place.

The process of moving is 1oo% the antithesis of the way I am wired and in which I operate the best and in which I thrive: calm, order, neat, clean, everything in its place.

When you’re moving, nothing is neat, clean, orderly.  It’s just a hurricane!

And the work.  The sheer physical work of moving.  From finding boxes to making them up to packing them, sorting and donating what I don’t want, up and down stairs 50 times a day, lifting things, awkward angles and crawling in cabinets and digging out forgotten-about kitchen appliances to standing on step ladders trying to get things down off high shelves and get it ready to be moved.  It’s all so much work!

I have moved so.many.times.  I did not want to move!  I love our current place and would have stayed here indefinitely.

But, I really love the place we’re moving into!

It’s 1.1 miles from our current place, so not far at all.  The vibe of the city is a bit different there, as can happen in urban areas, where mere blocks can change the essence and aura and vibe, but it was the only thing available and so I had to jump on it.  And I do really like it but there are a few things like not having our own private garage and being in an elevator building with a child that I don’t love but hey, the granite countertops and hardwood floors and 2009 construction should make up for that.

The other major issue with moving is the timing.  There is never a good time to move.  But truly, this move could not have come at a worse time.

Just putting the rest of my life on hold (missing work, missing 4th of July holiday events, etc.) while I scramble and pack is one thing, but there’s part two to this story of why the timing is atrocious….

…To Be Continued.


1. Do you like where you live?

I love it as I’ve posted about.

Even with the cost of living, San Diego is 100% my forever home.

And my home in Aruba, too, will be my other forever place and home.  Yes, I own in Aruba, rent in San Diego.  Go figure.

2. Have you moved much in your life?

I have moved tons and I don’t want to move again!

Previous moves:

Childhood moves within the Minneapolis area

Went to college in Minneapolis and St. Paul area and must have had at least 10 different dorms and apartments

Moved to Chicago after college and lived in at least 6 different places in the city and burbs

Moved to NC

Moved to SC

Moved to San Diego and lived in 4 places

Moved to Phoenix

Moved back to San Diego 9 months after being in Phoenix (wasn’t my cup of tea) and am in current place, about to move into the next one.  So six different addresses in San Diego.

I am sick of moving!  I want to put down roots.  The market is too volatile here in San Diego to even think about buying, but the downside of renting is being at the mercy of landlords.  They all tell you when you sign your lease that they have no intentions of selling.  Til they tell you a year later, hey by the way,   am selling and you need to move.

So, that’s why life has been crazy for me!

I didn’t want to blog about it until I even found a place and had a signed lease and keys in my possession.  That happened Tuesday morning.

Moving truck comes in 1 week.

But in the meantime, I actually took over two, huge, stuffed carloads of stuff to the new place and spent 8 hours schlepping, sweating, and unpacking.  The unpacking felt great!

I’m off to pack some more.

And There’s Part 2 to this too…

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  6. OMG – I can’t believe you are moving, and so unexpectedly! That is craziness! At least it is not far, and you love the place that you are moving too.

    I love where we live … we put blood, sweat, and tears into this house to make it what it is today, and I don’t think I will want to move for a long time!

    I lived in 4 different homes growing up (before getting married), and we are in our second home since being married.

  7. Ugh I have a love-hate relationship with moving…my mom moved me around a TON when I was growing up… and I moved twice last year. I finally feel like I am home and I refuse to move again!! (Stomps foot in assurance)

    I wish you the best of luck!!

  8. Good luck with the move!!! The last few moves have not come at good times for us at all. Especially last year, when Chris was really sick in the hospital. His kidney’s were failing and I was having to search for houses to rent!! Never a dull moment, huh? Looks like you’re doing a great job though! Have fun in Mexico with all the photography stuff…awesome!

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  10. I’m just reading about this right now Averie. Sorry about this whole thing! But thank God you have found another place so fast. This is probably a blessing in disguise. Sometimes we just have to let go even if it’s not our choice. I’m sure you are going to have a blast at your new place and enjoy it as well! You are a rockstar and you always make the best out of living. :)

    I’m tired of moving too! you know i’ve moved around so much but i think it’s time to settle down.

    I really love Cali and NY so hopefully in either states! My boyfriend is from NY and I”m from cali so it’s easier to make it happen.

    Sending you good vibes! x

  11. Oh Averie! I’m so sorry about this- what a nightmare! It’s amazing how much crap we accumulate so it does feel good to get rid of things. I love where we live. We haven’t moved much. But we’ve had to ‘move out’ to have floors redone or pest control….THAT entailed getting moving boxes and moving everything out and donating donating donating. So I know that feeling, though not on the speed that you’ve had to deal with . I’m soo sooo sorry! And you have me on the edge of my seat for part two- don’t tell us your pregnant too! Egads that would be tough with all this stress and moving!

    • haha. not pregnant!!! no!! I actually alluded to “news” a few posts ago and started off by saying, and no, I am not pregnant. That’s the 1st thing ppl always think!

      New post, part 2, is up now :)

      Thanks for your support, Deb!!

  12. Oh my gosh I am moving too and I so feel your pain. 99% of the stuff is mine so I have to deal with it. Ugh. I hate all the packing up and everything but we are in a little less of a time crunch which helps. We are in a landlord battle which is AWFUL, have had to consult lawyers, etc. I don’t recommend it. Hope the move goes ok and soon you can get settled and feel at home.

  13. I was just thinking of you, checked your blog, and found this post! I AM SO SO SORRY!! This really sounds awful. You are so amazing and strong, I could NEVER Do what you are doing. You are so right about the sheer amount of effort that has to go in every time you move. On the bright side you got rid of allot of things you didn’t need! My thoughts and prayers are with you wise one.

  14. I live in NYC. I pay an OUTRAGEOUS amount for rent. But in the end, I believe it is totally worth it! I love area I live in, have a cute little apartment and I get to live in NYC, so I guess I’m paying for the experience :)

  15. Having just moved (and still being in the process of unpacking) I can really feel ya pain. But short notice like that? That’s just rude!

  16. Wow that looks like one hell of a job!!! I have also moved many times but it’s always just been me on my own floating from country to country and although a couple of suitcases are a pain in the behind they do not compare to the sheer amount of life you have just had to pack and move!! I can imagine it is completely draining but it’s always kind of exciting moving to a new place right? And you’ll find things you love about the new place just as you did your current house i’m sure! :) Good luck with it all!

  17. wow, Averie, sorry you are having to move from the place you really like, but VERY happy you found another place to love! I think we are VERY alike – I hate the mess and crazy of moving, and I am usually wanting to do it all (or at least oversee the big stuff!) because on the other end I need to be the one to unpack, put everything in it’s place and organize. ;) I feel for ya, I wish I could be there to help! we’d have fun, and I’d make you take iced coffee breaks during the day, and cocktail breaks at night!

    take care!

  18. Averie, what’s your favorite part of SD so far? I’m hoping to get a lease in La Jolla, but I’m not sure I can afford it. I used to live in beautiful Alpine but I’ll probably be closer to the city next time.

  19. Hang in there Averie! I hate moving, too, and yes, I’ve moved a lot in my life. Not as much as you, but still a lot. ;) I think the next time we move, I’ll hire a company that comes in & assesses all your belongings, packs everything up for you, moves it & UNPACKS it all, too! (You go over what you want where with them ahead of time). I don’t care how much it costs, it’s worth it to me! Moving stinks!

  20. Ack! I’m so sorry you have to go through this! I totally have been there!
    In college, I was kicked out of my dorm and given a few days to find a place fast! It was so burtal cause I was a penny-less colege student in a city I’ve never lived in before! Some how, I found a place that was perfect. In the end, it all works out. We are like cats and can land on our feet. Let me know if you need anything!

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  22. Oh my heart goes out to you right now! I just moved about a month ago, too. Holy guacamole. It was my first time moving out of a house where we had accumulated 20 years worth of stuff. I had no idea how many cracks and crevices we could fit our junk in!!! We had one week to do it, too. Night and day: packing, selling, giving, cleaning….gosh it was a nightmare. Thank goodness we are past that now. I love where we live now, though. Moving from the freezing midwest (although I love my neighbors!) to gorgeous, sunny Florida! love it. But what I learned from the whole thing is-KEEP IT SIMPLE!

    But anyway, good luck!

  23. Wow! I am glad to hear you found a place. Moving is stressful, yet might be a good time to redecorate, create a new nest and explore a new area. Unpacking CAN be fun. I have sunk hours into reminiscing.

  24. Oi vay, this sounds like a total Murphy’s law of the perfect storm of annoying moving!! When it rains, it pours, right?

    However, you seem to have gotten through the initial shock/awe of it all and are handling it like a champ.

    That being said, part two is leaving me on the edge of my seat!!

    *falls off seat*

    YOU GOTTA HELP A SISTER OUT HERE!! suspense is killing me!

  25. Sorry about having this dropped on you without warning! That’s awful. At least you like your new place!! I hope everything goes smoothly. :)

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